This is a rant. You've been warned.
You know, if something is bothering someone- something that you did or said, if it somehow offends them or if they are feeling embarrassed or bothered by it because they give a flying f*ck about others opinions, you know what I say? Screw them. Why do you need to feel bad about yourself more than you probably already do?
So often we're told that something we said was wrong, or that we should be more polite (I call that a farce of character, an untruth, a facade of bullsh*t) or tame, or whatever it is that is just so offensive (I call it being yourself- your whole self, which includes, but is not limited to: sarcasm, vulgarity, sexual explicitness, etc) to whoever it is that is just so darn prude or delicate that they can't bare to be forced into reality. Honey, those Mad Men repressed days are over.
Why sugar coat things? Why act like a completely different person at first? Why put up a guard? I mean, it would appear to be more psychotic to put on this appearance that we want to portray, or rather, are told that we should portray, only for others to learn what a sick, vulgar bastard you really are? I mean, really? That's what society prefers? No thank you.
Obviously I've been so enraged in this moment that my fingers are faster than my synapses, and while my temper has cooled, the anger lingering within has not.
If you don't like what I say, then you know what? I don't really care. I truly don't. I mean, I really, really don't care. Because as my dear friend Mo reminded me, Dr. Seuss says: Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
I also have the Shakespeare quote This above all to thine own self be true tattooed on my left wrist (if you were wondering what it said).
Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else. Judy Garland summed it up with that one. I think that's why people say I have such a good brand, although none of it's intentional. I simply do what I want to do, and lead the way. I mean, why follow when you can lead, right?
As you can tell, I have a real problem when someone tries to tell me how to act. I encourage you to stay true to yourself and if someone doesn't like that, well ya didn't need 'em in the first place. And if you do need them, and you tell them, sorry buddy ol' pal, but I ain't changing sh*t, this is who I am, take it or leave it, then good for you. Stand your ground. They will probably feel really bad about themselves and start being concerned with why they started criticizing you in the first place.
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